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• Could you please explain to me the prayers said to a bride and groom during their wedding ceremony? The prayers said to a groom on how he should behave towards his wife are absolutely beautiful and are full of love and care; while it seems that the prayers said to a bride on how she should behave in a marriage seem quite demeaning. They demand obedience to the groom repeatedly and little else. We both grew up Coptic and would never dream of getting married in any other church, but it hurts me to think of standing in front of God and praying over something that I vehemently am against. After all, my groom is my equal in all things. He is not perfect for me to obey him nor is he my parent for him to have residing power over my actions.
• If one was engaged in any kind of adulterous activity, like sex with his girlfriend, masturbation, watching pornography, and so on, but at last, needed to marry and have a new life in Christ, how will his/her marriage ceremony be in the church. Will a regular ceremony be allowed? If not, what should do according to the word of God and the teaching of our holy fathers in regard to having a having the marriage ceremony (that is the first marriage ceremony)? What if one of the spouses to be already has a child from a previous relationship, how can he/she marry with one who was not previously married?
• In Malachi 2:14, marriage is described as a covenant. However, I am unable to find any mention of "covenant" in the Crowning Ceremony Prayer. How come this element of marriage is not emphasized in the sacrament? How exactly should marriage be understood in regards to covenant?
• What is the interpretation of the wedding ceremony, in specific, the role of the priest(s) and the key parts of the ceremony and symbolism behind it? What are the significant differences of American/western traditions versus that of the Egyptian/Coptic culture?